Thinkinking of transitioning

Sarah_2 · Posted: Jan 16, 2008 10:05 pm Post subject: Thinkinking of transitioning

Hi
thanks for the leads. To tell the truth, apart from following the links to an org' more local, I've been too petrified to do anything about it.

It's not fair on her, but I seem to be waiting for my partner to take the lead - probably so it'll be her fault that I havent done anything about it!!!

Well, it's not her fault, it's mine and I'd better get on with it as I can feel how testy I am at the moment. Seem to have a very short fuse and I dont like it

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peace

S

jessicadeanne · Posted: Jan 26, 2008 1:52 pm Post subject:

hello Sarah,
First thing I did was tell a local GP he first had me have chromosone tests done to see if i had like xxy genes and check hormones level Restosterone. He then refferred me to a gender specialist so thats an option also:)
In my view beeing true to yourself matters greatly as if deep down you would be happier to tranistion then long term that will have a positve impact on family and friends who care as I HAVE HAD FRIENDS COMMENT TO ME i seem much happier these days since i went on treatment. Irony is im fighting depression asa itype this but im happier beeing fulltime fem at home at work.
What you raise here is something only you can decide what direction to take however I BELEIVE A GOOD GENDER PSECILIAST IS THE WAY TO GO ALO AS IM IN pERTH i can not help you but whater you do may your tomorrows be better than your todays
jess

Sarah_2 · Posted: Mar 03, 2008 9:15 pm Post subject:

Thanks Jessica

Its surprises me now to read how uptight I was about this when I posted all that (it wasn’t long ago – I could end up like that again pretty quick!). I recall actually feeling worse before that.

I still haven’t made an appointment to see someone. I think I still should but I also feel a whole lot better about things right now.

Sarah went out in public for the first time on the weekend at Mardi Gras and marched in front of thousands of people. I had the support of my wonderful partner who dressed WITH me and shared the whole experience. It also meant coming out to my friend who we met there and marched with (the look on her face when she worked out who I was…!!!) and to some local gay fellas I know.

I also told my 8 year old daughter. I showed her a picture of me dressed up before the parade. She didn’t know who it was. I said “It’s me!” She said “you look silly daddy!” Hmmmm wasn’t sure who to take that. We talked more about it on the drive home; ‘silly’ was a good silly, it seems. After a long discussion about how it’s private and I don’t want her teased at school and that I’m still her dad and still love her regardless of how I’m dressed, she said “I’m tired. Can I go to sleep now?” Bless her cotton socks…. Anyway, another big load off my shoulders (a funny thing about coming out – you don’t realise the load the closet is and how much energy it takes from you being in it until you out yourself).

I can’t tell you (though I’m sure many of you already know) how it felt to be myself in public and to my daughter; not hidden away in our living room.

So, a plan is in the making: I WILL book in to see someone professionally. I WILL find ways to participate in the world as both my male and female self (I live in a regional town and don’t feel at all safe to go out here – I WILL make an effort to go to place where I can). I WILL begin to come out – for now, at least to friends – and I WILL be myself around them.

Thanks to all you who showed support. I have so much to thank you all and this website for.

S
xx

jessicadeanne · Posted: Mar 04, 2008 10:34 am Post subject:

pleased to read this Sarah_2 I have been amazed at as i came out my fears of losing friends i truly cared for made it hard but all accepted me and as time goes on i realise if thye do not then they were never friends worth having. G/gS YOU WILL find based on my experience 99% are supportive im pleased you were able to tell your daughter and understand not wanting her teased. My daughter just moved in with me and we were discussing why i never told her when she was younger or dressed. She said dad i would of rather known and if i lost friends well they not worth it. My view still is i did right thing however i believe specialists have boklets etc to help should later you choose to let it be more out there. It is in my view an individual choice and there is no right ot wrong just do the best we can

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